Never too full

[ru_exp]

Mayonnaise Jar & Two Beers

When things in your life seem almost too much to handle, when 24 hours in a day are not enough, remember the mayonnaise jar and the 2 Beers.

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him.

When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls.

He then asked the students if the jar was full.

They agreed that it was.

The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly.

The pebbles rolled into the open areas between the golf balls.

He then asked the students again if the jar was full.

They agreed it was.

The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar.

Of course, the sand filled up everything else.

He asked once more if the jar was full..

The students responded with a unanimous 'yes.'

The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.

The students laughed..

'Now,' said the professor as the laughter subsided, 'I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life.

The golf balls are the important things - your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions - and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full.

The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car..

The sand is everything else - the small stuff.

'If you put the sand into the jar first,' he continued, 'there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls.

The same goes for life.

If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you.

Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness.

Spend time with your children.

Spend time with your parents.

Visit with grandparents.
Visit with your Aunts.

Take your spouse out to dinner.

Play another 18.

There will always be time to clean the house and fix the disposal.

Take care of the golf balls first - the things that really matter.

Set your priorities.

The rest is just sand.

One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented.

The professor smiled and said, 'I'm glad you asked.'

The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there's always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.

[x-GAMBIT-x]

LOL! Thats perty good.

[Ghosted]

You said balls are important..

[Hermit]

Cheers.

[SMR]

I have no friends and am at odds with my family.
I have a souring relationship with my girlfriend.

How does one make friends in their mid to late 20's?

[x-GAMBIT-x]

How does one make friends in their mid to late 20's?

Get a Job!
Move out of your mommy's house...

[SMR]

How does one make friends in their mid to late 20's?

Get a Job!
Move out of your mommy's house...

Done both. Seriously, how does one make friends after college?

[Hermit]

You have to be a friend first.
Take people the way they are. Get busy and do not feel sorry for yourself.
You have youth, which is "wasted on the young" and it does not last a long time. Look at the bright side of life.
http://youtu.be/JrdEMERq8MA

[ru_exp]

I have no friends and am at odds with my family.
I have a souring relationship with my girlfriend.

How does one make friends in their mid to late 20's?

I would sincerely suggest you fix yourself inside first. See a professional counselor and be straight up about who you are. Once you can recognize that the issue is not likely people but yourself, then you can make huge steps in progression.

[SMR]

I have no friends and am at odds with my family.
I have a souring relationship with my girlfriend.

How does one make friends in their mid to late 20's?

I would sincerely suggest you fix yourself inside first. See a professional counselor and be straight up about who you are. Once you can recognize that the issue is not likely people but yourself, then you can make huge steps in progression.

lol...?

People have trouble making friends after college. They all move away, etc. Sometimes co-workers aren't a viable option.

[Ghosted]

I have no friends and am at odds with my family.
I have a souring relationship with my girlfriend.

How does one make friends in their mid to late 20's?

I would sincerely suggest you fix yourself inside first. See a professional counselor and be straight up about who you are. Once you can recognize that the issue is not likely people but yourself, then you can make huge steps in progression.

lol...?

People have trouble making friends after college. They all move away, etc. Sometimes co-workers aren't a viable option.

No, I think he was being serious based on what you said about your relationships.

It's easy, cliche and mostly correct when people give advice like 'give and you will get back', 'just love people and be more accepting', 'find groups of people with like interests', etc.

If you step back you will see exactly what you should do. If you want more friends it's as easy as observing others who have lot's friends and following their patterns.

Acting on this is something else and I'm not a fan of fake it till you make it. You have to be fulfilled at your core.

What does that mean?

Being happy. Content. Nearly imperturbable.

Approach this state and you will start to beam. The world will beam back at you.
It's like a cosmic law and everyone's experienced it. When you've had something really great happen and you're on top of the world for a day.
Notice how you smile and everyone smiles back. It's like you're more connected with everyone and what is a friend, but someone you are more connected to?

I learned this from my sun. Everyone is his friend and he is everyone's friend.

You asked how you can find more friends and my response is don't sweat friends, cultivate contentment and friends will come.

Maybe this doesn't answer your question. In that case, find groups of people with like interests.

[WeedVulture]

your friends have friends that can be your friend... those friends have friends that can be your friend... and those friends have friends that can be your friend.... and at least one of those friends knows a fat chick. if so, get me her number.

[ru_exp]

.... and at least one of those friends knows a fat chick. if so, get me her number.

You are fvcking nut case.

[Taxas]

I went to a few of this guys seminars

[Ghosted]

I went to a few of this guys seminars

I'd like to shift her paradigm.